“They loved life and it loved them right back.” — Unknown
When you love and appreciate your own life, even your life loves you back. However, it becomes better when there is someone else too to cherish you and your existence. And it may sound really clichéd, but the one who loves you would never believe in the act of pressurizing you into doing things that you would never want to happen. He/ she would make sure that you are always rooted in your comfort zone or at least till the circumstances allow and the two of you can manage.
What To Do When You Are Being Pressured Into Doing Things Related to Sex?
1. Recognise The Signs Of Being Pressured Into Doing Things
So, even before your girlfriend or boyfriend wants to make love to you, recognize the signs of being forcefully pulled into the act. You have the right to say no, but only when you feel coerced, you identify it as the same and it also does not feel like a sacrifice for love. Your body belongs to you and no one else, even if he/ she is your life partner, is allowed to use it in any way. If you make your mind to not indulge in such an activity, they should understand. Even though it’s not about your partner and just any stranger forcing you into the act, recognize that it may be a sign of sexual abuse.
There should be consent amongst the two people. Otherwise, it is just the exact opposite. If he/ she is of a complaining nature when you decline, if they keep continuing, or keep compelling you to try it out, this implies that you may owe them something, these are a few signs that you are being pressured into doing things that you don’t want to. Another signal is when they do not agree or respect your contraceptive preferences. And you may even agree to their demands in the illusion that you love them. But, you need to get out of the hallucination and see for yourself the wrongs and the rights.
2. Identify The Way You Should Be Treated
There are basic human rights to be kept in mind even when you are madly in love with someone. The right to freedom from any kind of torture and degrading treatment is one such moral that you shouldn’t ever forget. It just depends on how you perceive your partner’s or any stranger’s act. You absolutely have the right to not tolerate such immoral behaviors and be stern with your convictions.
It is possible that you may have unexpectedly entered in a situation where you are being pressurized. All you need to do is just pay attention to how you feel. Even if there are mixed feelings, it is time to cautiously move forward with that person. You do not have to offer any kind of explanation or feel uncomfortable with your emotions. Just listen to what your gut feeling says and stick to the same. If it is an instant situation like the other person getting his/ her clothes off, dry humping or maybe kissing the parts of your body apart from the mouth, then it is a very serious indication that you may not feel right but somehow will be dragged into the situation. Push the person away and get out of it.
Dear readers, it can also be the other way round. In a society that we live in, it is a stereotype where we accept only men to be at fault. Whereas, this is really not true. Sometimes it also comes from the side of a female. Yes, women too pressurize their boyfriends/ husbands/ colleagues into doing things that they find unacceptable. Read here all 7 ways How to Deal with Pressure to have Sex?