Not that it’s all that surprising, but women who have sex with women seem to be enjoying themselves more than women who have sex with men. A 2014 study by The Kinsey Institute found some interesting facts about lesbian sex, including that heterosexual women orgasm 62 percent of the time, whereas lesbians orgasm a whopping 75 percent of the time. While men, both straight and gay, still reign supreme when it comes to orgasm frequency, at 85 percent, what this means is that ladies who get it on with ladies have, quite possibly, the most satisfying sex lives. Although, as we all know, orgasms are not contingent upon great sex, they do help quite a bit.
With this knowledge at their fingertips, AutoStraddle decided to conduct their own survey in regards to the sex lives of lesbians. First, they received over 8,566 responses to their questions, 89 percent of whom were women between the ages of 18 and 36. Next, they analyzed all those responses and put them together in a gigantic report earlier this year, calling it The Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey. Since then they’ve been releasing bits and pieces of the report. So, because it’s so massive, we’re breaking it down to cover the most interesting parts.
According to this survey, here are nine facts about lesbian sex that you may, or may not, have known.
1. Lesbians Orgasm More Than Straight Women
Although the Kinsey Institute already made this clear, AutoStraddle confirmed it with their own survey. According to their respondents, 77.8 percent of lesbian women have orgasm during sex: 36.8 percent orgasm at least once during sex, 20.6 percent orgasm multiple times, and 20.4 percent orgasm almost every time. Only a fraction, at 4.4 percent, never orgasm during sex.
2. The Majority Of Queer Women Have Sex Multiple Times A Week
AutoStraddle asked the ladies how often they were having sex compared to how often they wish they were having sex in an ideal world. It found that 28.78 percent of women are having sex multiple times a week, followed by multiple times a month at 22. 88 percent. Only 1.25 percent were doing it more than once a day.
When it came to the “ideal,” in first place, at 51.89 percent, responders wanted it multiple times a week, followed by 20.66 percent who wanted it at least once a day.
3. Lesbian Women Between 18 And 24 Masturbate Most
The survey found that, at 44 percent, the majority of lesbian women masturbate multiple times a week. In that 44 percent group, masturbating the most, at 45.9 percent, were 18 to 24-year-old women.
Only 7.72 percent masturbate once a day, and again the largest percentage in that group are the 18 to 24-year-old women at 12.3 percent.
4. Less Lesbians “Scissor” Than You Might Think
Although scissoring, for some reason, comes to the mind as the number one way in which gay women have sex, it’s not true. Of those surveyed, only 40.7 percent say that scissoring is a regular part of the sex lives. So, with that in our back pocket, we can finally put all our scissoring fantasies to bed, I guess.
5. Lesbians Have Longer Sexual Encounters Than Heterosexual Couples
Based on AutoStraddle’s findings, the majority of sexual encounters, at 47.3 percent, last anywhere from 30 to 60 minutes. Second in line, at 26.6 percent, are sexual encounters that last one to two hours.
In comparison, the average man lasts about 14 minutes during intercourse, so the likelihood of any dude, besides Sting, being able to have a sexual encounter that lasts more than 30 minutes is just, well, crazy talk!
6. Most Lesbian Women Have Never “Squirted”
Squirting, which is still a debatable topic as to what the hell it is (some saying it’s pee, some saying otherwise), still remains elusive even in the queer women community where orgasms are plentiful. Of those surveyed, 46.7 percent said that they had never squirted, 32.6 percent had, and 7.8 percent didn’t know. But of those who had experienced female ejaculation, 85.2 percent of them have orgasms every time they have sex.
7. Monogamous Lesbian Relationships Result In More Orgasms
It seems that monogamy sits well when it comes to orgasms, because 65.7 percent of those surveyed orgasm at least once every time they have sex, compared to 50.4 percent of those in non-monogamous relationships who do. However, in a very interesting side note, when it came to having an orgasm “almost every time,” singles, at 20.5 percent, faired better than those in monogamous relationships at 19.85 percent.
8. Talking About Sex Leads To More Orgasms
Not that it’s too groundbreaking that communication leads to better sex, but the survey found that those lesbian couples who talked about sex several times a month had an orgasm rate of 86 percent.
9. Those Who Orgasm More Are More Satisfied With Their Sex Lives
Of those surveyed, 76 percent who orgasm at least once during sex said they were “mostly satisfied” with their sex lives, whereas 54 percent who didn’t usually experience an orgasm could say the same. Although 54 percent is still in the majority, so that’s pretty awesome news.
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